Question:
I’m an Associate General Counsel at a large state university and a Republican. As far as I can discern, all of the other AGCs are Democrats. I don’t think the workplace is the right place to talk politics, but right now the political chatter about the Presidential election is overwhelming and driving me nuts. I haven’t revealed my political leanings and don’t want to—but unless I talk politics, there simply isn’t any small talk to be had. I’m very conservative and very opinionated (Romney is the clear solution to our economic woes and will advance the interests of those people who truly make this country great; Obama will destroy us if he gets another four years at the helm), and fear that if I speak up, I’ll forever isolate myself from my colleagues. But I can’t handle their crazy liberal talk anymore!! Help me!
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Question: I’m a third-year associate at a midsized firm. The partner I primarily work with is gregarious, very social, and a serious rainmaker (let’s call him “Darren”). He’s loved by all — the clients, attorneys, and staff. He leaves work nearly every day by 4:00 and, from what I’ve learned, heads straight to the bar and parties or hits the golf course and starts knocking them back, often with clients. All of this is fine. However, I’ve learned, albeit through improper channels — okay, I read his emails one day after hours when he forgot to shut down his computer — that on several occasions he told clients that I was at fault for various things the clients complained to him about, such as not getting corporate docs to them on time or forgetting specific changes to a doc that the client requested. In reality, I was not at fault for any of these mistakes.
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Dear Law Firm 10,
I’m a cultural Neanderthal. I’ll admit it. Over the last seven years I immersed myself in work and barely looked up. Now, I’m seeing some light and want to date around (as opposed to hooking up with a girl now and then). But I’m woefully behind the times. In other words, I cannot carry on a conversation about anything related to television, movies, or books without saying something like, “How do you play Game of Thrones?”
What should I do? Subscribe to People and get up to speed? Or does it matter? I don’t want to seem like I’ve been under a rock for the last ten or so years even though I kinda have.
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QDear LF10: I’m a thirty-something associate at a large firm. I’ve dated off and on over the years but have not yet found the right guy. The longest I have dated someone is 18 months and it ended amicably. Most of my relationships do, though I’m typically not happy that they end.
I’ve currently been dating a guy for about four months. Things are good. He’s funny, attractive, and “gets” me, some of the major things I’m looking for. But when we first met I said “gay.” As in, he’s either straight-up gay or a gay-acting straight man. I couldn’t help it—it was my first initial reaction. A gut feeling. I found it funny at first and thought things wouldn’t last because of my reaction—but they have.
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QDear Law Firm 10:
I’m a lawyer who dated the same woman since high school, but—long story short—we are no longer a couple, and I’ve recently been thrown out into the dating world without any experience. I really do mean without any dating experience whatsoever, except whatever you call dating as a high school sophomore.
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The fact that I no longer have a Facebook account means that I’m swimming against the tide when it comes to the popularity and pervasiveness of social networking. Clearly Facebook isn’t going anywhere, and all the signs seem to be pointing to an ongoing, steady increase in usage. So I thought it might be useful to provide a little guidance to the multitudes who still insist on parading each and every detail of their mundane lives on Facebook.
The following list contains things you must avoid posting on Facebook, both for your own sake and for the sake of humankind as a whole. Or, to put it another way, if you post any of the following things on Facebook, you’re a delusional, idiotic, desperate, attention-whore and completely lacking in self-awareness.
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CEASE AND DESIST DEMAND
TO: Men
FROM: Women
RE: The wearing of sandals for men (hereafter, “mandals”)
DATE: May 1, 2012
Dear Sir(s):
This CEASE AND DESIST DEMAND is to inform you that your repeated wearing of mandals has become unbearable for myself, along with the women I represent. Such anti-social behavior is completely unacceptable and will not be tolerated in any way, shape, or form.
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It’s pretty hard to take the sting out of being rejected by a guy after a month or so of semi-serious dating, especially when the signs seemed to be indicating a reasonable likelihood of success. Sadly, I find myself in this situation a little too often, so by now I’ve got a system for dealing with my hurt feelings and bruised ego in the immediate wake of being rejected. It typically involves a great deal of drunken analysis, the focus of which is to compile a list of non-threatening answers to the question—”Why didn’t he want me?”—and I’ve had a lot of success with this approach for the past couple of years. Until recently, that is, since I’ve started to notice an alarming trend:
In three of my last four rejections, I concluded that the guy ended things with me because I intimidated him.
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Like most other maladjusted, self-conscious late bloomers in my viciously looks-driven co-ed Catholic grade school microcosm, I started keeping tabs on the specific aspects of my appearance that I hated when I was still in the fourth grade. The list went something like this:
- Enormous, crooked front teeth
- Huge glasses (it was the 90′s, after all)
- Lifeless brown hair
- Thin lips
- Hips too big
- Stomach not flat enough
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When I first heard about the class action lawsuits alleging fraud based on inflated post-grad career placement statistics filed against 14 law schools, I wasn’t shocked in the least by the allegations contained in the complaints.
Instead, my reaction was more like, “Yep, that sounds about right.”
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