QI graduated near the middle of my class of a top-tier law school in 2009. I have been working as a contract lawyer for two law smaller firms in a moderate size town for a year, gaining some valuable litigation experience. I am at a crossroads, however. I really dislike litigation. I never went to law school to research and write all day. I did it to become a transactional lawyer. But, I hear the life or work of a transactional lawyer isn’t so much better. Therefore, I, like so many others on this site, am having some serious second thoughts about the law. My question is, given the huge learning curve with the law, does time make the heart grow fonder?
This question, I feel, is critical to answer in terms of determining where I go from here. Does the practice get better with time, or does that general feeling of angst and despair continue to follow lawyers throughout their career? I, of course, am not talking about those lawyers who genuinely love the practice, more power to them. I am talking about those attorneys who start practicing and quickly realize they really don’t enjoy what they are doing. Does life as a lawyer get better, or should one trust their intuition and begin looking for other career opportunities.
I realize this is a tough question that depends on a multitude of variables, but it might be interesting to hear readers’ thoughts. Thank you.
ADoes that woman you think is “okay looking” ever get really hot? In my experience, the answer is no. You know right off the bat. The second that door opens, you’re either saying, “Damn, I can’t wait to hit that!” or, “Shit! She looks kind of dumpy in jeans.”
It’s visceral. It’s immediate. It’s primal.
Of course, we all tend to repress the truth. It’s called denial. You think she’s really funny and smart and you hope that somehow, magically, she’ll get hotter over time. You say things to yourself like, “The more I get to know her, the sexier she’ll become.” Or, “Smart lasts forever, but beauty doesn’t.” Or, and this is my all time favorite, “Sometimes, physical attraction just takes a while to develop.”
The bottom line is: It doesn’t! You got it or you don’t! It’s the same thing with practicing law. It’s not as visceral and immediate as sexual chemistry, I admit, but it’s pretty damn close.
Personally, I knew right away that I didn’t dig practicing law. In the quiet of the night, alone with my self-hate and tortured thoughts, I KNEW that being a lawyer wasn’t for me. I just knew it! But like a good, hard working middle class kid (err, pussy) , I hung in there for years trying to make it work – trying to fall in love with a woman I knew I wasn’t attracted to.