I’m a summer associate at a major west coast firm. I went to our first firm barbecue the other day with my girlfriend, and this Senior Associate, who thinks he’s a cool-guy player, was blatantly flirting with her. I’m pretty sure he asked for her phone number, but my girlfriend says he didn’t.
I should obviously say something to him, right? I definitely want to get an offer, but I think it’s wrong for someone to try to pick up a colleague’s girlfriend. It’s insane. What should I do?
Nothing. Just leave it alone. When you date cute women, other men, whether or not they’re lawyers, will flirt with them. Fact. It’s up to your girlfriend to not flirt back. If she did, she’s just as lame as he is, if not lamer. Either way, however, you should keep your mouth shut.
Your masculine, chivalrous instincts are telling you—begging you—to stand up for your girlfriend and tell this ass clown, Clooney wannabe what a loser he is! I get it. But don’t do it. The upside is negligible, and the downside is pretty significant.
This is about you, not him. More specifically, this is about you getting an offer. So ignore his barbecue lameness and move on—unless, of course, this JD Jackass said or did something insulting. If he crossed “the line,” whether verbally or physically, that’s a different story. But based on your email, it doesn’t sound that way. Asking for a phone number after a few afternoon margaritas is pretty tame in my book.
PS: Next time, don’t bring your hot girlfriend to a firm event.